I have a theory. Just listen….
Women are born nurtures. We are able to love and accept people for who they are; even if they aren’t the best person for us. We learn to settle and cope in a relationship that is not for us. Then we forget what quality we wanted in the first place. We learn to be unhappy and that should never be. Some of us have the strength to wake up, and leave when we realize we’ve compromised too much. At that moment we go on to receive the happy ending every girl deserves.
Men on the other hand, I believe, are doomed when “the one,” decides she deserves better and leaves. Men have much more of a guard, so when they open up to the perfect woman, it’s hard for them to perform that process all over again. That man will never be the same, and will always miss the “one that got away,” the one who kept him at his best. It seems that “the one that got away” will always keep that place in his heart, no other woman can fill it or replace it. His guard will not allow it, in fear that another will leave, repeating a never ending cycle or just the reminiscent factor of the love he once posed.
To the fellas, if you’ve found a one of a kind, if you’ve found the one, don’t play with her. I’ve seen, and heard, it happen too many times, and over many generations. Don’t take a chance with a love you will never experience again. If you want love, make a choice. Honor her and that choice. Even if you are doing your dirt, which I never condone, protect her from all angles. She should never feel the pain of that disloyalty. She should always be the priority.
If you get caught, tell her the truth because it is bad enough your relationship is broken; that can be repaired as long as she feels that she can trust your honesty. Nine times out of ten, if you are COMPLETELY honest you save yourself because that means trust can be built again. If your relationship is broken with lies on top, the trust is severely damaged and your love/friendship will never be the same.
To the ladies, know what you deserve. Know that there are plenty of fish in the sea willing to love you the way you should be loved. Know that there isn’t a woman in earth that can give him what you can, and he’s missed out. As long as you have room in your heart you can always grow in true love with someone else.